Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Total Truth Tuesday

If you know me in real life, you've probably asked me the question everyone asks a pregnant woman as far along as I am, "So, have you guys come up with a name?"

And, I can guarantee you that you've gotten this answer from me, "Um, well, it's just been really hard for us to settle on a boy name. I had plenty of girl names, but boy names are just harder for me."

That was true for a while. I did have only girl names picked out. But, that is not entirely true anymore. And, it's high time I fess up.

'Cause I do have a boy name picked out. Have had one for a couple of months now. And every time I go into my little "speech" about not exactly knowing a name yet, my husband looks at me like I've completely lost my mind. Because he knows the real truth and he can't figure out why on earth I keep saying that.

We're not the type to keep secrets about the name. I have never had any intention of keeping a secret because, well, I am notoriously horrible at keeping secrets. I don't even like to keep secrets. And even if I were going to I'd just tell people who asked that we're keeping it on the DL. But, I don't. Instead I'm evasive slightly untruthful telling a total lie.

So, here is the real truth. We have picked a boy name. And it's one that I absolutely love. Thomas came up with it and it is just so perfect. But, it is a bit...unconventional. I mean, we're not naming him Moon Unit or Dweezil but it's just got the potential to be received by blank stares and crinkled up noses. I'm not keeping it quiet because I'm embarrassed of it because that couldn't be further from the truth. I'm actually just hesitant to tell anyone because I love the name so much I can't bear to have anyone say anything ugly about it.

When we picked Arema Kai and Ivy's name pretty much none of my family liked either. They just thought they were too different. In fact, one family member (and you know who you are) thought Ivy sounded a bit too much like the stage name for an exotic dancer. Poison Ivy, she said. She joked that I was limiting her career choices by giving her that name.

And, this name is only slightly more different than those names. So, I've kept it quiet and been hesitant to reveal it to anyone. I guess I'm just thinking that once they see a cute little baby and we announce the name they'll be less likely to stomp all over the name. They'll be respectful and kind and, you know, make fun of it behind my back. That is something I can deal with.

That does beg the question, though, what is your policy/procedure on naming babies and name sharing before the birth? Have you chosen to share and regretted or kept things secret rather than subject yourself to all those unsolicited opinions?


Anonymous said...

Nice try.

If you think I have any intention of making fun of you behind your back then you clearly haven't been paying attention to the geological preferences I have when it comes to this sport.

Tell me now. Tell me later. The outcome will be the same.

If it's anything, ANYTHING, like Arema Kai or Ivy, Dewdette and I will absolutely love it and kick ourselves for not thinking of them.

...and then I will make fun of you as if it's stupid and Dewdette will pistil-whip me for being insensitive and joking inappropriately.

It's the circle of life.


Anonymous said...

and by geological I mean geographical.


Heather said...

First, I have to say that I am sorry for my lack of commenting. I can't get a feed on you for some reason, so...

Anyway, when I was pregnant with my kids, I made the mistake of telling people. And by people I mean my mom, and she always had such negative comments. It was just easier to pick other names. If I had it to do over again, I would not tell her until after the birth.

With that being said, I would love to know the name. If you would care to share with me.

Katie said...

So as I read this post, I was making myself read straight through and not just look at the last paragraph because I expected you tp reveal at the end. And then you didn't! It's killing me.

Anyway - to answer your question, I can't say what I've done because I don't have kids of my own, but I can see both responses. If you tell now, people have a chance to "warm up" to it; if you tell later, they aren't as likely to openly complain when there is a sweet adorable little creature already bearing the name. Do what you feel and don't listen to anyone else. Look at all of these celebrity baby names - Apple, Coco, etc. They are way "worse" than anything any of us do!